A relationship is the way in which two people are connected. A relationship is a combination of love, respect, friendship & understanding.
A married life is like a rollercoaster ride in which the relationship go through ups and downs. A healthy and secure relationship can serve as an ongoing source of support and happiness in our lives. So it is really important to know some basic principles to keep your relationship strong and alive.
1. Be a Good Listener :
Every Human being in this world wants to be heard and understood. So the first rule to make your bond stronger with your partner is to listen to him. The biggest communication problem is that we do not listen to understand ; we just hear to reply. Give your ideas, opinions or feedback only when you think is required. To jump on any conclusion without listening to your partner completely, creates misunderstandings and conflicts.
2. Mutual Understanding :
Understanding is the backbone of any strong relationship. It is what makes or breaks any relationship. Your partner starts respecting you more if he/she knows that you understand him/her completely. Try to put yourself in the shoes of your partner and visualise the situation in his/her place.
3. Express Through Communication:
Good communication is a key part of any relationship. Communicate openly and honestly. When both partners know what they want from their relationship and feel comfortable expressing their needs, feelings and desires; they can increase trust and strengthen the bond between them.
4. Meaningful Connection:
Expecting too much from your partner can put unhealthy pressure on a relationship. Never force your opinions or views on your partner.
You should not stick like a glue to your partner. Give him/her some private space to explore other relationships with family and friends . It’s also important to sustain your own identity outside of the relationship.
5. Be Honest:
If you don’t agree at some point with your partner, you should be vocal about your feelings/opinions in a polite way. Don’t be afraid of disagreement but don’t let your opinion lead to an argument. At the end, value your relationship over anything else, because a Great relationship is about finding out the similarities and respecting the differences.
6. Be A Support System:
People don’t always need advice. Sometimes all they really need a hand to hold, an ear to listen and a heart to understand. Support them just as much as you would expect them to support you.
We can improve our relationships if we become encouragers instead of critics. Acknowledge the achievements of your partner. Challenge each other to go beyond average and pull out the greatness from each other. Try to appreciate even the smallest of efforts.
8. Spend Quality Time:
It’s not the length of the hours that make any relationship great instead it’s the quality of minutes which make any companionship long-lasting. Keep your hobbies and interests alive & spend your leisure time together to indulge in activities which excite both of you. Share your experiences. Experiencing things together helps you grow and evolve as a person.
9. Give Surprises:
It’s important to give surprises to keep your relationship meaningful , fulfilling and exciting. Plan a movie day out, a date night or a long drive. You can put some romantic note in the lunch box or on dinner table. Amaze your partner with some surprise gift even if there is no occasion because no one knows his /her needs or desires better than you. It will definitely spice up your life.
10. Never Compare:
Stop comparing your partner with anyone else. You never know what challanges other couples are facing in their lives. So stay away from the so called happy and perfect life of celebrities or fake people on social media as the grass always look greener on the other side.
11. Don’t Hesitate in Saying Sorry:
Although there is glory in knowing that you are right, yet there is maturity in apologising during an argument. Don’t let the resentments build up. Assumptions and mind reading can be dangerous as they lead to misunderstandings and hurt feelings. Great relationships are not great because they have no problems. They are great because people care enough about the other person to find a way to make it work.
Every relationship needs maintenance. Even strongest relationships can become complacent or stagnant if you don’t put in efforts. Treat your relationship like your house. Build on a firm foundation. Pay your dues. Lock your doors to keep strangers out & Always bring something to table.
A Happy Marriage is the union of two good forgivers.-Ruth Bell Graham